A blogger and essayist’s account of how he got here out after
discovering that hackers had used a private picture on courting web sites to lure
unsuspecting ladies into relationships.
Dameron was in his mid-40s when he discovered that cyberthieves had
used a stolen selfie for a catfishing scheme that succeeded in duping ladies all
over the world searching for love. The incident left him feeling indignant and
violated but in addition profoundly disturbed: Now the web poster baby of
“misleading on-line courting,” it appeared the universe was additionally calling him into
account for the lie that had change into his grownup life. A father of two who had
married his school sweetheart, Dameron had been raised Catholic by a
homophobic mom. His adolescence had been an ongoing battle to maintain his homosexual
id non-public and dwell like a “regular” man. Now not keen to stay in
the closet however not sure of escape it, he sought out the corporate of males
on the native gymnasium and secretly experimented with steroids to construct up his physique.
He additionally developed an in depth friendship with Enzo, a straight man at his firm,
that rapidly developed into one-sided attraction. Jealous of her husband’s “bromance,”
Dameron’s spouse by chance discovered his cache of steroids. After
counseling didn’t shore up their marriage, they separated, and the writer
started working with a therapist to assist him come to phrases with “the opposite [gay]
Invoice.” In search of a foothold within the homosexual group, he moved in with two lesbians
and commenced looking for a companion. Within the meantime, his spouse and daughters
struggled to deal with the non-public and social fallout that Dameron’s
revelation introduced into their lives. Finally, the writer crossed paths with
one other homosexual “breeder and…Daddy” who not solely helped Dameron
face his demons, but in addition turned his husband. Candid and compassionate, the
guide celebrates fact and honors the redemptive energy of forgiveness and love.
An in the end uplifting memoir by which the writer learns “to
love my genuine self, not the picture I had created.”
